How to Forgive, Forget and Let Go
①Forgiving someone does not mean releasing them from an earlierguilt. What if the person who wronged you is not living? What if the person issomeone who made you extremely embarrassed during school 20 or 30 years ago? Lettinggo of emotional pain does not mean that nothing happened; it means that you nolonger want to be controlled by it.
②Recognize that forgiveness is not denial. Whatever caused the painwas a real incident. Denying that it happened means it is too painful to workthrough the emotions. There is no timeline on forgiveness. Some steps takelonger to get through, and it is acceptable to set them aside for a period oftime. Part of forgiveness is understanding whether or not someone takesresponsibility for what happened, and may even show regret.
③Understand that not everyone who forgives reconciles with theperson who caused the pain. There are relationships that are harmful and evenphysically dangerous. While it is possible to forgive the past and move beyondit,it may also mean that the person who was involved can no longer play anactive role in your life. If a person or situation is not safe, it may be bestnot to reconcile the relationship now. Work on forgiveness at a time when youare emotionally healthy and physically safe.
④Make a conscious decision to forgive someone. Even if they neverapologize for what happened, determine within yourself that it is fine toproceed without this apology. Apologies should not be asking for forgiveness. Apologiesshould be offered as an effort of true regret. They should be admitting thattaking personal responsibility for the situation is important. Even withoutthat apology, make up your mind to forgive, forget, and eventually let go.
Paragraph ①: ________
Forgiving should be at a safe time
Forgiving is not to deny what happened
Forgiving is not to free someone from blame
Forgiving can happen without an apology
Forgiving can lead us away from the past hurt
第一段第一句是本段的中心句，讲的是原谅别人不意味着把他们从内疚中解放出来。选项C与本段对应。
Paragraph ②: ________
Forgiving should be at a safe time
Forgiving is not to deny what happened
Forgiving is not to free someone from blame
Forgiving can happen without an apology
Forgiving can lead us away from the past hurt
第二段第一句是本段的中心句，讲的是原谅并不是否认发生过的事。选项B与本段对应。
Paragraph ③: ________
Forgiving should be at a safe time
Forgiving is not to deny what happened
Forgiving is not to free someone from blame
Forgiving can happen without an apology
Forgiving can lead us away from the past hurt
第三段最后一句是本段的中心句，讲的是在你心理健康且人身安全的时候再去原谅别人。选项A与本段对应。
Paragraph ④: ________
Forgiving should be at a safe time
Forgiving is not to deny what happened
Forgiving is not to free someone from blame
Forgiving can happen without an apology
Forgiving can lead us away from the past hurt
第四段最后一句是本段的中心句，讲的是即使没有道歉，也要下定决心去原谅、遗忘并最终放下。选项D与本段对应。
You may forgive someone________.
you may not become friends
to offer forgiveness
who are still dangerous to you
who wronged you long time ago
you may never get rid of emotional pain
whoonly forgive those showing regret
forbeing forgiven
题干的中心词是forgive。第一段第二句、第三句讲述的是如果诽谤你的人已经死了呢？如果这个人是二三十年前在学校时使你尴尬的那个人呢？本题是说你可能会原谅很久之前诽谤你的人。选项D符合题意。
There is no fixed time________.
you may not become friends
to offer forgiveness
who are still dangerous to you
who wronged you long time ago
you may never get rid of emotional pain
whoonly forgive those showing regret
for being forgiven
题干的中心词是fixed time。第二段第四句讲述的是原谅并没有一个时间表。也就是说，原谅没有固定的时间。选项B符合题意。
Even if you’ve forgiven someone, ________.
you may not become friends
to offer forgiveness
who are still dangerous to you
who wronged you long time ago
you may never get rid of emotional pain
who only forgive those showing regret
for being forgiven
题干的中心词是even if。第三段第一句讲述的是并不是每个原谅了别人的人都和对他造成伤害的人修复了关系。选项A符合题意。
Don’t rush to forgive those________.
you may not become friends
to offer forgiveness
who are still dangerous to you
who wronged you long time ago
you may never get rid of emotional pain
who only forgive those showing regret
for being forgiven
题干的中心词是rush to。第三段倒数第二句讲述的是如果个人或者环境都不安全的话最好不要调解你们的关系。选项C符合题意。
Some people apologize merely________.
you may not become friends
to offer forgiveness
who are still dangerous to you
who wronged you long time ago
you may never get rid of emotional pain
who only forgive those showing regret
for being forgiven
题干的中心词是merely。第四段第三句讲述的是道歉不应该是为了祈求原谅。选项G符合题意。
If you expect an apology, ________.
you may not become friends
to offer forgiveness
who are still dangerous to you
who wronged you long time ago
you may never get rid of emotional pain
who only forgive those showing regret
for being forgiven
题干的中心词是expect。第四段最后一句讲述的是即使没有道歉，也要下定决心去原谅、遗忘并最终放下。选项E符合题意。